It happens daily in different ways, showing itself in many forms, yet the effect of it can last a lifetime. It has driven sensitive, caring, goal-oriented people to commit suicide. What is it? Bullying.
Bullying is mental and emotional abuse. These forms of abuse take longer to heal than physical abuse and is not as visible. The victim's self-worth is viciously attacked and damaged.
Self-worth is a combination of: respect, confidence and esteem that each person has or doesn't have for themselves.
All too often, the victim has low self-esteem in the first place. When the bully attacks his/her victims, the bully's self-worth increases. The persecutor (bully) feels worthy when their victim is dragged down to their level. Ironically, both bully and victim may suffer from low self-worth.
So what about the effects of bullying for it's victim's besides the hurt feelings and shed tears? Just search the internet and you will find people who killed themselves or innocent others because of bullying. The final way to cope. The scars are painful and deep. The victim has the responsibility to repair the un-requested damage its persecutor has done. Where and how do they begin? With victims head in their hands and tearful red eyes they think, "Why me? It's just not fair." Evaluating their life, they reasoned they weren't a bad person who deserved this. It's a challenge to understand.
There are ways to cope, survive and feel valued. I will address these in future blogs.