Letter to the Editor

The crying towel

Tuesday, August 31, 2021

Over the decades, the "crying towel" has been both praised and ridiculed. Some feel it denotes a lack of empathy on the part of the donor. The recipient can be in for some merciless ribbing. On the other hand, the crying towel can be a very healthy way to manage a difficulty, or major loss. It can truly be a way through tough times.

If you were hurting, how would you feel if you received a towel that proclaimed "Do not apologize for crying. Without this emotion, we are only robots? Elizabeth Gilbert nailed it with that one! Author Unknown has been responsible for many words of comfort: "Don't tell me to stop crying if you don't know how I feel inside. Then there is this one: "Crying releases a million emotions that come rushing out in tears. Put more succinctly, "Cry, yell, let it all out, then move on. Or how about this: "If memories are like scars, then crying is their way of bleeding.

Tom T. Hall had a good one: "I love winners when they cry, losers when they try. Even Dr. Seuss got into the act with: "Don't cry because it's over. Smile because it happened." Good old Will Shakespeare waxed eloquent with "To weep is to make less the depth of grief. I conclude with a gem from a man of few words: "The mirror is my best friend because when I cry it never laughs, attributed to Charlie Chaplin. Crying cleanses the soul, and we can all stand to scrub up, at least once in a while.