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Why can't we be friends?

Tuesday, March 6, 2012

It's ironic that, with the world as close as just one click, some use that inclusiveness not to spread kindness and understanding, but vitriol.

I don't care what your opinion is on the birth control provision the President's health insurance proposal, don't tell me you weren't shocked by the behavior of conservative talk show host Rush Limbaugh.

He verbally attacked a female graduate school student who testified before Congress, calling for coverage of birth control. He called her a word that, well, is degrading, offensive, masogynistic and should never be allowed on the public airwaves.

Giving me hope for some semblance of a reasonable society, several of Limbaugh's sponsors quickly dropped him. And, after defiantly refusing to back down from his statements, he issued a much-delayed mea culpa over the weekend.

Without the threat to his wallet, do you suppose he would have apologized? Somehow I doubt it.

Give Limbaugh credit, however, at least he acted in his own name, and took personal responsibility for his actions.

Usually, modern hate crimes, and less severe modern character assassinations and smarmy put downs are done under cover of darkness.

"Anonymous," is a pretty prolific guy (or gal).

"Clever Screen Name" sure gets around too.

Take a look at the message boards of any site online- the Daily Reporter's included. We've got some really great discussions going on. And then, we also have some die-hard "anti's."

They could be opposed to a single issue, or maybe a single person. Often, they have something pithy(?) to say about everything and anything.

Often, they cross the line, and their comments are removed. Sometimes, someone says something they don't like, and they want that offending comment removed. Dishing it out appears a speciality. Taking it? Not so much.

But hey, it's all under cover of anonymity, so it must be good, clean fun.

It's a societal problem. It affects young and old. When we don't have to look someone in the eye while we're saying it, it's much easier to say awful things. In public, the manners your mama taught you kick into play. Unfortunately, the memo about "true character is what you do when no one is looking," didn't get spread to all.

By the way, this opinion column has my name on it. Heck, it's even got my picture.

Just in case you're wondering who wrote it.


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What Mr. Limbaugh said showed his true character.

What you do when no one is looking, to me, is the definition of integrity. Its being true to yourself. Sticking to your guns. He does not exhibit these. So why do so many people listen to his show?

sincerely,

Brian Watland

-- Posted by brian48 on Tue, Mar 6, 2012, at 3:25 AM

I don't understand this latest crop of conservatives at all. I'm sure some would have a similar thing to say about liberals, so let's say the more visible and vocal voices in politics today have lost their demeanor. I pick on conservatives mostly because I cannot fathom how they have so soiled their reputation as the party of solid upbringing and family values. There are so many examples, from Rep. Joe Wilson shouting, "You lie," in the middle of the President's speech on healthcare to then-Vice President Cheney cursing Senator Leahy in the Capitol to the buffoonery at the Republican debates this year especially to Rush.

What bothers me the most about Rush's use of that word is that he doesn't even seem to realize how dehumanizing it was. Calling a woman he doesn't even know by that name, demanding that she create a video for him to watch -- it causes me to wonder how he is feeding his mind to generate mental material for his show. If he fed his mind with edifying material, I doubt he would have degenerated to this level in his on-air discourse.

She is a person with an opinion. He thought of her only as an object for his dichotomy of simultaneous derision and desire.

Now he's contributing to the trash that passes for discourse today.

-- Posted by AmyPeterson on Tue, Mar 6, 2012, at 12:43 PM

Amy, you forgot Rick Santorum flat-out stating that "Obama wants everyone in the nation to attend college. What a snob." I tend to be more socially conservative, but this year's republican candidates are making me wish more than ever for a viable third party. Extremists on either end of the political spectrum are usually out for their own good, using the personal issues of others as podiums for their party-driven talking points. Bill O'Reilly and Rachael Maddow each have popular cable news talk programs, and each is equally guilty of twisting facts, words, and more to suit their political agendas. The people that listen to them religiously without taking the time to research the facts rather than the spin are only getting one side of each story.

-- Posted by notinia on Tue, Mar 6, 2012, at 2:25 PM

By the way, I don't see the problem with remaining anonymous if you are not attacking others. Simply disagreeing does not a bully make :)

-- Posted by notinia on Tue, Mar 6, 2012, at 2:27 PM

It depends on who is making the comment! Some can say anything they want about certain people and get away with it, but when that person try to defend themselves . . . their comments get deleted!

-- Posted by Nikki on Tue, Mar 6, 2012, at 10:11 PM

First I want to say that I think it is great that Rush finally brought himself down!!! He was getting on his god act again and doing it strongly. Listened to him yesterday and man did he have manners, polite, listened, and I think he remembered easy come, easy go! Hahahaha it was great!

But need I remind you that Ed Schultz called Laura Ingram a slut more than once on his radio show the same week Rush did his mess up. Did you hear the media talk about that? And lets not forget Bill Mahr!! He called either Bachman or Palin the C word, numoruse attacks, and name calling on both of these women. Mr. Colbert, oh we can't forget him either :) Tries to be innocent but he is no better. These two men are awesome on bashing woman in charge. Wonder if they lost their jobs, been splashed all over the media, or lost sponorships? Hmm

Let's have the media report on both sides and not just one. By the way just cause someone claims to be on one side or the other, doesn't mean that they actually know what they are talking about. Nor do they represent everyone on that side!! Hence more than one speaker on the radio or tv.

I am NOT a fan of Rush by any means and I think he is a jerk and belongs with the two men that I mentioned, but I am sick and tired of ppl blaming republicans for these duffises! I love how these same ppl want republicans to respect their opionons, space, rights, ect. but forget that it goes both ways!

-- Posted by acerdj on Wed, Mar 7, 2012, at 6:44 AM

well said acerdj! Both sides spew hateful words. IMO Rush has not said anything too crazy the last few months so I believe this was his way of getting publicity. He doesn't care if it's good or bad. He will lose some sponsers but don't think for a minute another sponser won't poney up money to advertise on his radio show. I personally do not like him but I also don't hate him. He is free to say whatever he wants but also has to deal with the consequences.

-- Posted by iowafan11 on Wed, Mar 7, 2012, at 9:35 AM

you stated: But hey, it's all under cover of anonymity, so it must be good, clean fun.

Each screen name user on this website had to

register with the Spencer Daily Reporter before they are able to post on here, so it is not as anonymous as you are claiming.

-- Posted by Nikki on Wed, Mar 7, 2012, at 7:08 PM

Most people that don't like Rush have never listened to him...they form their opinion by snippets from the drive-by, lame-stream, left-biased media.

-- Posted by Dennis the Menace on Thu, Mar 8, 2012, at 7:36 PM

I wish the media would treat both the right and left equally. The left seem to get a pass on most everything. Yeah, Rush got a little carried away making a point. Yeah, he lost some sponsors, but the main stream media can't know the real number. It would be interesting to know how the sales numbers are affected by the companies that dropped advertising. But the left leaning media would never report it if that company's sales went down.

-- Posted by clayfarmer on Fri, Mar 9, 2012, at 3:11 PM

Anyone who thinks they know everything and they and their "side" are never wrong have no place influencing the public in any way.

-- Posted by trybeinghonest on Sat, Mar 10, 2012, at 1:35 PM

I like Rush and I like that he brought attention to a subject that just ticks me off. Hello, people birth control is already free as are abortions and they are funded by the government thru Planned Parenthood. I do not feel sorry for a law school graduate who sleeps around and cannot afford birth control...really?! The cheapest form of birth control is to not engage in sex. I don't believe anyone should be forced to pay for anyone else's birth control or abortion. Pay as you go, privately.

-- Posted by Leah Cauthron on Tue, Mar 13, 2012, at 10:28 AM

Leah, I couldn't have said it better myself. Way back when I was in college, the joke was: "The best possible birth control was to keep your knees together!" Somewhat crude, I suppose, but a greater truth was never spoken.

-- Posted by What if ? on Fri, Mar 23, 2012, at 2:22 PM

I myself wondered about Planned Parenthood. I thought they offered cheap ways to pay for birthcontrol and free birth control. And if these girls are so worried let them buy condoms. They are free in most gay bars so maybe they should stop there and stock up. As far as this column, Paula I couldn't agree more. So many people hide behind their computer screen and outside of that are too scared to have an open opinion.

-- Posted by joev on Fri, Mar 30, 2012, at 10:11 AM

WOW. There are SO many reasons to be on birth control besides being sexually active.

I have taken the birth control pill since my sophomore year in high school. Six years later, I'm still a virgin. I take the pill because otherwise I menstruate so much that it is both painful and unhealthy. One of my first periods was during the CCF. I was bleeding the ENTIRE time of the fair, PLUS three days on both sides. And then, two weeks later, I was bleeding again.

Others take the pill due to health issues, like cysts. Still others take them for acne, PMS, PMDD, or other menstruation-linked symptoms.

Taking the pill does not make us sluts. Taking the pill doesn't mean we're irresponsible. Calling girls sluts because of the medication we're on is horribly dehumanizing and encourages a anti-humanistic rhetoric in the public square.

For those of you who complain that providing birth control on the "taxpayer's dollar" is unfair and are more concerned about your own bank account than allowing others to have services you yourself would be upset to be denied, please note that in most cases, preventative health care is MUCH cheaper than dealing with the aftermath. Would you rather pay for medication, or welfare?

As a parting comment to my already long message:

If you're working to take birth control away from women, make sure to take viagra and condoms away from men.

-- Posted by cornfed on Sun, Apr 1, 2012, at 12:11 PM

Cornfed you are so off on this. Yes I do not want to pay for your birthcontrol. Yes I know that it does more than just prevent kids. But I do not need to pay for you to be on it, just like I don't pay for a mans condom or viagra. Soon that is going to get snuck into the bill! I don't believe in abortion either but now I have to supply this to employee's? NO! You need itand it is cheap. You do not spend $3,000 on these, unless your a hussy.(not you specifacally)For in the arm $1000 for the year or go to planparenthood and just a donation is taken. Compacts per month is $13 to $25, most a year $300. Condoms are $10 to $15 a box. If you can't afford these on your own, then you can't afford to be having sex, cuss you can't afford the oops that may follow!

Now if you are like my daughter that uses birth controll for medical reasons. Well she still has to pay for it. Why? Cuss it is still cheap enough. You only have one pack per month, or one pill that dissolves per month. So tell me again, why I need to help you on a cheap matter? I earned my dollar, I should not have to keep helping everybody to enjoy that dollar!! I am not the goverment.People need to learn to budget thier money. If you can't afford the convience one than learn how to do the cheaper version.

-- Posted by acerdj on Wed, Apr 4, 2012, at 6:15 AM

I'd rather be paying for birthcontrol to a 'hussy' (as others are calling them) than paying out for welfare for unplanned motherhood. I find it puzzling how the ones that complain about women being on birth control and against abortions are the same ones on the bandwagon against welfare. Hate to break it to you be you cant have it both ways. jussayin

-- Posted by jusamom on Sat, Apr 7, 2012, at 1:14 AM

I am also curious as to the people who want to close Planned Parenthoods, outlaw abortions (and these stories I hear where a medical doctor sees by medical testing that an unborn child will in great likelihood not survive or is already dying such that the parents and doctor together choose to end the pregnancy being called late-term abortions truly baffle me -- it's the loss of a child due to medical circumstances no one controls!) limit access to birth control, then turn around and cut funding to WIC, Head Start, well child and maternal health programs -- what gives? You want all these children to be brought into the world, then the parents, who may be ill equipped, have no support to care for them?

Even Ronald Reagan, whom many thought was among the most heartless of conservatives, but whom I actually miss in this election cycle as this round of Republicans fails to measure up for any kind of election contest, said it made no sense to cut WIC or Head Start regardless of what else was going on in the government.

While I'm not equating women who access clinics like Planned Parenthood for birth control to drug addicts, I support both in a similar fashion - I feel it is a positive thing in our society to have free rehab and methadone clinics and needle drop-offs to prevent the worse ills of continued addiction and AIDS. No, I don't agree with the choices of many of the individuals who would partake of these programs, but I think we need to accept this as a reality of our society and not suffer under the illusion that we can return to 1954.

-- Posted by AmyPeterson on Sat, Apr 7, 2012, at 4:34 PM

I am under no illusion. We are quick to hand out instead of teaching ppl how to fend for themselves. I do not agree with abortion, but I do not pose my morals on woman. The debate on this could go on. There is always a good reason why a woman would need one. I do support adoption tho, for I am one that has done this. I do not think we should get arid of WIC or welfare. I do think that most ppl are on it cuss they abuse the system. This is where we need to reform it. Like I said earlier, if you can't afford birth control than you can not afford the oops afterwards! Parents need to start holding children accountable and themselves. We the society do not need to take care of everybodys mistakes. I understand that bc doesn't always work, and thus crap happens. I do not understand why a lot of these girls/guys are aloud to have multiple children with guys/girls, live on welfare, beg at the door of churchs, and whine that noone helps them because yet again they are getting kicked out of an apartment. These are the things that I the society want to change. What happen to the hard knock life. Sometimes when you fall and are forced to help yourself up, you learn a lot more than always getting that hand out! This is where parents are failing in today's world.

I don't know how many times I have seen a parent sit there and say no no no and then ok as long as you quit your whinning. Go to reasturants and the children are running free and annoying other customers. So on and so forth. Let's get back to teaching the truth and sometimes the truth cuts deep, but most survive the wound and learn not to go there again. Ppl need to stop playing victim. Life is only as hard as you make it.

-- Posted by acerdj on Mon, Apr 9, 2012, at 7:06 AM


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