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Racing stripes on a turtle?

Posted Tuesday, August 16, 2011, at 1:44 PM

Purple & Gold Nikes-$140; BKE jeans-$125; Aeropostale Tee-$25; "pretty or custom" folders, notebooks, pencils that cost 2X as much as plain ones...whatever they are, are they worth the extra money? Do they make your child run faster, hit harder, jump higher? Do they make your child more polite, respectful, or caring? Do they make your child smarter, or make their handwriting more legible? I don't believe so. What I do believe is that it makes children think of their parents as less than parents and more as an ATM. In some cases, I believe that extravagant spending has replaced quality time.

What is it teaching our children about responsible spending? Even if you are a parent who can afford such spending wouldn't it be a better lesson for your child to earn at least half or settle for something more reasonably priced and donate the rest to a local charity?

There are places in this world where children go without shoes, food, clothing, water...what are we in America, teaching our children? That it's more important to be popular than to be giving? That its more important to look good than to behave? That its more important to have what's in, than to work hard and study.

Expensive shoes cannot replace hard work and perserverence. Expensive clothes cannot replace a kind word or a helping hand. Expensive school supplies cannot replace study time and instruction.

A dress doesn't make a pig, a princess. A hood ornament doesn't make a Hyundai, a Mercedes and racing stripes on a turtle don't make him a rabbit.

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Leah, the information was available from my sibling's college on the bookstore's website. Perhaps ILCC needs to get with the times?

-- Posted by notinia on Fri, Aug 19, 2011, at 5:53 PM

Like a previous comment, I've always given my kids a budget and if they want the expensive jeans, then it's cheap t-shirts.

As for supplies, my kids have reused folders and binders for years. Last year my junior daughter was using a plastic folder from second grade, which still had "Math" written in her 7 year old handwriting. She thinks it's cool. My son is a college sophomore using the the "expensive" back pack we splurged on in 6th grade.

Definitely check out Amazon and Barnes and Noble for textbooks. It's a little harder at ILCC, but at the state colleges, you can get the ISBN numbers from the school website and shop all over the web for the best deals. Our son got 3 textbooks at Amazon for $200 this semester, at the college bookstore we would have spent almost $500 for the same books. Ohh. . . Graphing calculators are that much, but if he is taking a lot of math classes, he'll use it for a few years.

-- Posted by spencermomof2 on Fri, Aug 19, 2011, at 1:51 PM

Thanks notinia, its too bad that knowledge is not passed on readily to new students. It is still ridiculous what they cost.

-- Posted by Leah Cauthron on Fri, Aug 19, 2011, at 9:00 AM

Leah, many books can be rented, and usually from the institution. I did, and so did my siblings. Some colleges even offer e-books, for a rental fee. I usually found that ordering used books on Amazon was cheaper than even used books from the college bookstore; now you can sell them back to Amazon to put towards the purchase of next semester's books. I also shared books for a few of my classes. There's nothing a professor can do to stop you from doing so.

-- Posted by notinia on Thu, Aug 18, 2011, at 9:37 PM

LOL Leah! You think WTH now! Wait until he is done with the books and the school wants to pay him $100.00 for half of his books and the other half they say will not be used anymore and they will not buy them back! That is a real kick in the wallet :S

-- Posted by deweyh on Thu, Aug 18, 2011, at 5:30 PM

Along these same lines, well not really, but sort of. My son just spent $700 on books for college at ILCC!! WTH?! Do the mafia have a hand in that racket? He spent $115 on a calculator because its the only that the professor likes?! Are you fricken kidding me?! Why can't books be rented or even shared? This is just another indication of our society gone mad. It is no wonder kids have such high debt coming out of college and can't afford to pay their bills. Something needs to be done. It's just insane!

-- Posted by Leah Cauthron on Thu, Aug 18, 2011, at 10:45 AM

I taught my son how to bargain shop early on. Now as a teen he is a very good shopper,he shops at the name brand stores but looks for the red clearance racks 1st. he found jeans at holister for $25 each.

I personally do alot of shopping at Goodwill and stores of that nature. We need to learn to reuse and recyle.

I do however spend a little more on shoes and coats. I found out along time ago that a cheap coat isnt so cheap when the zipper breaks in Jan. and we have to replace it. Same goes for shoes, blown out $15 gym shoes arent so cheap when you have to buy 2 or 3 pairs to make up for one pair thats more expensive. Raise your kids to be frugal and it will last a life time.

-- Posted by spencer lover on Thu, Aug 18, 2011, at 10:24 AM

I see your point, but the same can be said of many things adults purchase for themselves. Haircut at a salon? Why waste money on something as self-centered as your personal appearance? Cut your own hair (or don't, then you don't have to buy scissors) and donate the $30 to charity each month.

Charitable donations, and the values behind them, are great. But a lesson that's just as important is teaching your kids about spending. Not giving them any other options is going to make those high-priced options that much more attractive when they can afford them. I've taken girls from another family school shopping as a favor before, and that father gave each girl a certain $ amount, a list, and the requirement that each thing on the list be purchased for school. If they wanted to spend half the money on expensive shoes, fine- but that meant getting jeans from WalMart. The girls had been through it all before and all three were wise enough to spread out their budget. They had enough left over for Dairy Queen at the end of the day. I can guarantee that those shopping trips left a much bigger impact than a parent coming home with bags of second-hand clothes would.

It is up to the parent to instill values in children. If you attempt to let merchandise do it for you, well, then you end up with kids who believe that pretty notebooks will earn them A's. These are the same children who may grow up to drive Hummers ;)

-- Posted by notinia on Wed, Aug 17, 2011, at 4:08 PM

And its all from CHINA showing kids that nothing is made here ,

What lesson is that ???

-- Posted by BRUSHPILE on Wed, Aug 17, 2011, at 2:03 PM

As the "baby" in a family of three, and with lots of older male cousins, I was basically raised on hand-me-downs. If I wanted something special, I either asked for it for a holiday or bought it with my own money, which I either earned or received as a gift. I don't see what's so wrong with second-hand anything. Heck, I'm 24 and still have a lot of hand-me-downs. For example, the only piece of furniture I paid for was my couch and it was $75 from Thee Garage Sale. There's nothing wrong with that. Kids need to learn that just about everything costs money. If they want something extra special, they should have to earn it.

-- Posted by Gabe Licht on Tue, Aug 16, 2011, at 1:55 PM

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My name is Leah Cauthron. I was born and raised on a farm near Cushing, Iowa. My parents still live there. I am a conservative Catholic. I have been married to Randy for 22 years and we have six children. I received my degree in Criminal Justice from Eastern Wyoming College and as a mother of six and a daycare mom, I have used probable cause, reasonable doubt, search and seizure, Miranda rights, submission, arrest and interrogation technique as a part of my daily life. I can also shoot a .357 magnum with deadly accuracy. I have lots of opinions on lots of things. I am not an expert on anything but I read a lot and will gladly share that information if I find it accurate. I have a sarcastic nature and for the most part I have pretty thick skin and most things don't bother me for long. I don't like mudslinging or name calling so keep negativity of the personal nature to yourself. Enjoy and welcome to my opinion.
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