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No Children Allowed

Posted Wednesday, July 27, 2011, at 11:15 AM

http://shine.yahoo.com/channel/parenting...

This is a link to a story about the new trend of businesses that are banning children. It is ocurring on airplanes, in movie theaters, restaurants etc. I am mother to 6 and we have taken our children everywhere with us. In the 22 years that I have been a mother I have only been asked to leave one movie theater which I did without complaint. On the other hand I have endured countless stares, whispers, glares, and even rude comments from patrons of public establishments because someone thought my children were too loud or too rowdy. Sometimes they were and sometimes not. We always tend to overreact when our children misbehave in public so I don't think they were ever out of line. However, I simply cannot agree with this new trend. Do they also ban anyone else who simply cannot be quiet or sit still? Or what about those that eat too loudly or use horrible manners? What about those that cannot seem to be quiet during a movie? What about those that can't seem to dress appropriately? Where are the lines drawn? What is acceptable and unacceptable? What do you think?


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I have mixed views of this.

I read the article about one of the restaurants banning kids and I thought it was interesting because it was a casual dining restaurant.

For a fancier restaurant, I wouldn't have a problem with them listing an age requirement. If you are one that goes out to a fancy restaurant, it really is not appropriate for children, they will not have a good time in all likelihood and it may be a reward or treat for when they turn 5 or 6 years old that now they are old enough to go to FiFi's -- if they can behave themselves.

Screaming babies and persistently noisy toddlers in non-kid movies: one of my pet peeves. We did occasionally take our child with us when we saw a movie, but we sat in the back and were prepared to zip out right away if they cried. I did this for kid movies also and spent some of them standing in the lobby. It's what we do as parents. When they were infants, we were very fortunate that our educated guesses about their nap time coinciding worked out most of the time.

Airplanes -- first class or business class = yes, I believe children can and should be restricted in those areas. It's hard to say. I'd rather have a sleeping or quietly nursing infant near me than a screaming, kicking preschooler or whining elementary aged child. But of course this is true in most of life, and true of my dealings with my own children's behavior. It is a dicey issue because theoretically one could pay for a first class ticket for the whole family and have children in first class. When my children were little and we flew, coach, on a plane to visit relatives, we gave them a max dose of Benadryl out of kindness to them and to ourselves.

-- Posted by AmyPeterson on Thu, Jul 28, 2011, at 7:03 AM

Amy, so were you ever a kid????

-- Posted by ajz on Sat, Jul 30, 2011, at 10:21 PM

The main reason businesses are banning children or making child-free accommodations is because of the noise level, correct? Like Leah, I'm curious whether these same businesses be banning mentally handicapped individuals that cannot remain quiet. Both groups have the potential to act inappropriately in social settings, usually through no fault of their own. I'm not saying either group SHOULD be banned from anywhere, but I am curious how the logic will apply to other individuals that may disturb the average consumer. I'm willing to bet that news of adults with Tourette's Syndrome being banned from Delta would be met with outrage. Children are simply learning to be people; how else will they learn how to act in public if not given the experience?

-- Posted by notinia on Mon, Aug 1, 2011, at 1:47 AM

We have become a much ruder society, and part of that is parents not disciplining their children. I have listened to and watched children in restaurants, stores, and on the street. Parents allow unsupervised children to rip open merchandise, scream for 15 minutes, go behind counters, etc. I don't think restaurant or retail bans will occur -- each business owner will decide how to handle what is occurring. BTW the original ban was in a restaurant owned by a retired teacher who faced numerous customer complaints about unruly children whose parents refused to deal with the tantrums, etc. when asked to. These are privately-owned businesses, and owners have the right to set their own rules.

-- Posted by communicate on Mon, Aug 1, 2011, at 12:19 PM

I agree that privately owned businesses have the right to set their own rules. However, that right was taken too far when businesses refused to serve minorities years ago. I realize this is a bit of a slippery slope argument, but I do believe its along the same lines. Trouble with one (or even several) members of a group should not result in a ban on all members. Just like "NO SHIRT NO SHOES NO SERVICE" is a suitable replacement for "NO BOATERS"- only refusing service once a rule is broken-, the "NO CHILDREN" policy would better read "PARTIES WHO IGNORE MISBEHAVING CHILDREN WILL BE REFUSED SERVICE." Yes, misbehavior is subjective, but the business owner is free to set or post those rules. An altogether ban on kids is extreme, IMO.

-- Posted by notinia on Mon, Aug 1, 2011, at 4:58 PM

How about separate areas like we used to have smoking and non?

-- Posted by stafinois on Tue, Aug 2, 2011, at 9:07 AM

I would much rather sit by noisy children than obnoxious drunk adults.

-- Posted by miche on Tue, Aug 2, 2011, at 4:47 PM

You know why people let their children run around, and be obnoxious. Its because you will get in trouble if you discipline/spank them. GOSH forbid we make our children sit down and respect things, property etc...

I certainly remember having to have to sit and be patient and not be rude and loud.

I am all for the family being out and yes TAKE your children with you, but PLEASE teach them respect and don't be afraid to swap them once and awhile.

-- Posted by Toodles712 on Wed, Aug 3, 2011, at 1:23 PM

This wasn't an issue 25 years ago. So why is it now? Society has changed. Too much liberal bs!

-- Posted by brian48 on Thu, Aug 4, 2011, at 5:32 AM

The problem is that children are not taught to behave in public. Also parents should not have to be asked to leave when a child acts out, they should leave on their own.

-- Posted by spencer lover on Thu, Aug 4, 2011, at 11:35 AM

As a parent, there have been times I've wanted to crawl under a table because of my crabby, slightly loud child. But, how do we expect children to learn appropriate public behavior if they aren't allowed to be exposed to it? They learn from seeing how others act in social situations. Since it is obvious from behavior we see in restuarants and even stores, some parents don't teach their children. You have to hope that those kids are being taught better social skills in school, daycare, and from being with friends families. There are some places children really don't belong, but for the most part, they shouldn't be banned.

-- Posted by odyh on Thu, Aug 18, 2011, at 10:15 PM


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My name is Leah Cauthron. I was born and raised on a farm near Cushing, Iowa. My parents still live there. I am a conservative Catholic. I have been married to Randy for 22 years and we have six children. I received my degree in Criminal Justice from Eastern Wyoming College and as a mother of six and a daycare mom, I have used probable cause, reasonable doubt, search and seizure, Miranda rights, submission, arrest and interrogation technique as a part of my daily life. I can also shoot a .357 magnum with deadly accuracy. I have lots of opinions on lots of things. I am not an expert on anything but I read a lot and will gladly share that information if I find it accurate. I have a sarcastic nature and for the most part I have pretty thick skin and most things don't bother me for long. I don't like mudslinging or name calling so keep negativity of the personal nature to yourself. Enjoy and welcome to my opinion.
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